Wednesday, September 30, 2009

SWIMMING

We were having dinner the other night and during the conversation Hope said that she thought she would take swimming for her freshman P.E. unit.  Hope spends half her summer in pools and at the beach, so Scott and I supported her decision whole heartedly.

Shae looked at us with questioning eyes and we responded with the general "what?"  She said, "Dad, Mom, it's the swim team that she wants to join.  She has to try out."  Scott and I glanced at each other and then at Hope, who by the way, has never competed in any type of water sport.

"Is that what you're doing Hope", Scott asked, trying unsuccessfully, to hide a smile.  Hope chimed in with a cheerful, "Yea, no big deal."  I said "Hope, why do you want to be on the swim team?"  She replied without missing a beat "I can swim."

We have raised a very confident 15 year old.

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Tuesday, September 29, 2009

GARAGE DOOR SLAM

Once again, Addison has an encounter with a garage door.  Only this time a friend was included in the chaos.

Addi and Cheyne had just returned from a date and were in the house chatting with the family.  I had some laundry to finish so I went out in the garage intending to do a quick load.  I would be right back in on the conversation without missing a beat.  

I happened to hear them walk out the front door,  walk down the sidewalk and come to a stop at the corner of the garage.  The date was apparently over.  My devious mind was set in motion and I plotted my attack.

I waited until I heard no conversing and assumed it was the good night kiss.  I stepped ever so slightly up to the garage door and gave it a few rough slaps.  The noise was deafening and I heard silence from the other side.

I ran out the front door, fearing I had scared them silly and they were laughing so hard there was no sound.  Apparently they had jumped into each other when the slamming occurred in an attempt to run away.

Chalk one up for Mom.

CAR

Once again, Addison and I had a plot. She had just gotten her permit and we were out practicing the driving thing. She decided she wanted to drive over to Cheyne's and demonstrate her skill behind the wheel. As we pulled up I had the brilliant idea of hiding in the back seat and scaring the beejeebees out of him.

Her story was going to be that she took the car without permission and wanted him to join her on her joy ride. She parked the car and went to his door to "kidnap" him. I prepared my strategy and the scam started to play out.

Addison and Cheyne got in the car and started chatting, real relaxed, although Addison could hardly contain her intense excitement about the upcoming subversive event.

I, without warning, jumped out and yelled as I propelled myself into the front of the car. Cheyne screamed like a little girl and tried to jump through the front window. He shivered and shook for about 5 seconds and then we all burst into laughter that continued a good 3 minutes. Cheyne had been got good . . . real good.

You never know when you are going to be "punked" by a Roderick.

WEEDS

Did you know that we are the only family in all of Huntington Beach that makes their children weed? Shocking. We have a good reason for assigning each of our girls a flower to care for . . . responsibility training.

I lived in a small town in Maryland growing up and my dad rented a plot of land every spring and summer so that we could have fresh fruits and vegetables. We would drive out to the garden 2 or 3 times a week and get dirty. I hated it . . . seriously, I really hated it. I hated pulling weeds, I hated hoeing, I hated planting, I hated harvesting. Nothing about it was fun.

Until I discovered that I could sell the over abundance of vegetables and fruits. People love to buy fresh and know who they are buying from. We actually had several neighbors call regularly about what produce we were picking. One fall my sister and I made $80.00 selling pumpkins alone . . . a lot of money in the '60's.

I learned that hard work and doing things I don't necessarily enjoy is not all bad. It taught me how to be responsible in my every day life and in the community. I found that doing activities with your family can be rewarding.

So girls, roll up your sleeves . . . you have a flower bed to weed.

SUGAR TIT

I know, I know. It is a shocking title for a post, but I am honoring my grammy with this one. She shared this little tidbit with me when Kelsey was about 3 months old and was fussy on the farm. Her first visit to the old homestead. A bunch of firsts on this trip to Illinois.

Kelsey just couldn't get comfortable. She was squirmy and squacking and just a little miserable. She didn't want to breastfeed, didn't want a bottle, had a dry bottom, didn't like the binky. I was out of options. Grammy came up and said "try a sugar tit." I gave her a shocked expression and replied "what is that?" Grammy went on to explain that her mother used sugar tits to calm all of her babies. It never failed her. Here's the recipe for my grammy's sugar tit.

You need a clean 100% cotton dishtowel. Cut a one inch square of bread without the crusts and one teaspoon of sugar and place these in the dishtowel and twist the towel so that you create a little ball in the bottom. Carefully dip the ball in milk to saturate. Place against baby's lips and gently entice the sucking action . . . voila' . . . a sugar tit.

After using Kelsey as the guina pig, I did occasionally use sugar tits on all my girls. They would latch on immediately and it would keep them happy for a good 15 minutes. I would intermittantly dip in milk to keep the tit damp. It did not interfere with breastfeeding and it was approved by my pediatrician.

My grammy was a genius and I will always carry fond memories of her in my heart.

Monday, September 28, 2009

CHINESE FIRE DRILL

It was several summers ago that we encountered the "Chinese Fire Drill."  Of course, I had been familiar with the activity for years, but had neglected to clue my kids in on the fun.

We all piled in the Expedition in anticipation of ice cream.  My kids and several of the neighborhood kids, including one little guy who was still in a car seat, buckled our safety belts and were off.  I love BR in the evening.

We ate our ice cream outside as the sun was setting and we all jumped in the car to return home.  I pulled onto our street and just after I made the turn, stopped and yelled "Chinese Fire Drill."  The kids followed my cue and we all jumped out, ran around the car and jumped back in.

At least, I thought we all jumped out, ran around the car and jumped back in.  No, no, no.  I was missing someone.  Vincent, who was about 6 at the time, had jumped out alright, but took off down the street towards home.  He dad is a firefighter and you mention fire and he is outta there.

We finished the drive to the house without Hope because she was now with Vincent.  AJ, the little guy in the car seat, sat in our driveway, in the car still buckled in, and laughed and laughed.  He enjoyed the drill even though he was not a participant.

Leave it to the Roderick's to make a simple excursion memorable.

VS

As you can imagine living in a house full of girls, we make several trips a year to one of our favorite stores . . . Victoria's Secret.  It's not just the store and all of the pretty things to buy, it's more of the atmosphere, the ambiance of romance and love that pricks our monetary hearts.

We walk through the front portal and are transported to an unlikely kingdom.  Our eyes scan the displays as we seek out our intended purchases.  Kelsey will saunter towards the practical and comfy.  Addison will lope over to the very girly and sexy.  Shae will meander to the romance, lace and sophistication.  Hope will always be found in the PINK.  Myself, I head straight for whatever is on sale. 

We browse, choose carefully, gather our items cautiously and the real show begins.  Each girl takes a dressing room.  Me, I purchase and go home and try items on.  No need for me to be depressed in VS with all that unflattering light.  I can always use an excuse to go back to the mall should I have items that need returning.

Garments are slopped over and under dressing room doors.  Comments are being flung at random.  I am trying to make all girls happy including the gal who was lucky enough to pull the Roderick girls as customers.

"Mom, this bra is to small.  I am spilling out.  Can you get me a bigger size?" "Mom, I said extra small, not small." "Mom, can you get that girl to come measure me again.  I think my boobs are bigger?" "Mom, I really want those lacy panties.  Do you think an extra small or small?" "Mom, can I please try on that night gown.  I don't think it's too revealing?" "Mom, when do I get to wear thongs?"  "Mother, are you really buying that?"  "Mom does my butt look big in the PJ bottoms?" "Mom, will you really wear that in front of anyone?"  You all get the word picture I am trying to paint, right?  People in the store actually stop to watch our reality play itself out.

Once our selections have been made, we head to check-out and the glorious pink bags.  I pull out my precious VS charge card.  Excursions such as this need to be executed with precision.  I smile weakly as the total is placed in front of me.  I find I can not catch my breath as I realize we are going to have to take out a small business loan to pay for our fun.  I sign and we are off to our next destination.

Scott sits alone on a bench in the mall wondering how did this happen.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

PROMOTED

Hope promoted from 8th grade in June and was very excited.  She was so ready to get out of junior high and hit the sidewalks of Huntington Beach High School.  We all attended the ceremony, full of pomp and circumstance, at Talbert Middle School.  Followed by a lovely lunch at the Lazy Dog Cafe, a favorite of Hope's.  Scott and myself, both sets of grandparents, Addison and Kristin, Shae and Chase, and of course, the guest of honor, Hope Josephine Roderick.  She was delighted with her meal, her gifts and her special day.

Chase was a wee bit delinquent in his gift giving, but Hope, being Hope, didn't mind waiting.  Hey, in her mind a gift is a gift.  She loves and appreciates them all at any time.

Mr. Mason came by later in the week with the cutest little Superman mug.  Chase is big on super heros, so Hope was not too surprised by his sentiment.  She was a little amused at what was written on the inside of the handle.

#1 Grandpa.

Way to go, Chase!

WAGON

Shae and Hope were outside playing on a beautiful spring day.  I was doing childcare at the time, so Nathan was here as well and they were all in the driveway with all the childhood equipment.  You know what I'm talking about . . . bikes, wagons, shovels, skateboards, etc.  I was in and out doing laundry, so I was able to check on them quite frequently.

I had just gone in to get another load when I heard blood curdling screams coming from the front yard.  I ran down stairs just as the door flew open and Nathan and Shae came in with terror in their eyes.  I ran out the door and what I saw was so funny I nearly collapsed from laughter.

Picture this.  Hope is sitting in the wagon silent screaming while two lovable labradors are licking her from top to toe.  They had gotten out of the neighbors back yard and just come by to say "hello".  Shae and Nathan were quick at escaping those doggie tongues, but Hope was to slow.  She was in the middle of a slobber fest.

I ran over and plucked her out of the wagon.  Now that she was in safe arms, she was ready to pet the dogs and Shae and Nathan wasted no time in joining her.  Apparently when a grown-up is present canines are no longer scary.

Always be prepared while visiting the Roderick's.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

LUCKY PUNCH

It was a wonderful summer day in Medford, Oregon and my friend Monique and her kids were at our house visiting.  Our kids were about the same age and loved playing together and we moms loved to gab so it was the perfect set up.

We were sitting in the garage watching the kids ride bikes, chase each other and do all kinds of energy burning activities.  I was real good at keeping my kids moving during the day so that they would go to bed early in the evening and Scott and I could have some adult time together.

Matthew was a year older than Kelsey and he was known to tease and torment her, in a fun and humorous sort of way.  He kept telling Kelsey how "strong and muscular" he was and Kelsey would just smile.

He started encouraging Kelsey to hit him.  "Punch me Kelsey, do it," he kept telling her.  "You can't hurt me" and "girls can't hurt boys" and "I can take it" were some phrases that kept escaping his lips.  I wondered how long it would be before Kelsey had her fill of his taunting.

Kelsey finally said "Matthew, I do not want to hit you".  She was very calm and cool.  Matthew laughed at her and kept up with his jibes.

I watched Kelsey take a deep breath and land one punch square on his nose.  He grabbed his nose and cried, just like a little girl.  Kelsey had beamed him good and gave him a bloody nose.

I felt bad and proud at the same time and told Monique I was so sorry.  "No problem, Matthew invited the punch and got exactly what he wanted" was all she could say.

No one ever crossed Kelsey again.  Man, does she have a mean right jab.

NIKES

I used to be an aerobics fiend. Four times a week I would lead a group of ladies at our church in a one hour session of sweat, grunts and groans. It was my release. Two little girls at home and not yet pregnant with the third, I felt the freedom to get myself ripped.

I had been telling Scott that for Christmas I wanted a new pair of Nike's for my frequent workouts. I had this beautiful pair picked out and all he had to do was go buy them. My old ones were just ready to be thrown out. They were so worked over the sole had left the shoe. No kidding, it flapped when I walked.

So Christmas morning came and under the tree was a perfectly wrapped shoe box with my name on it. I gave Scott the happy eye as I opened my new shoes. Imagine my surprise when they were not new shoes at all. They were my old shoes that he had repaired. To be specific he had glued the sole back on.

Now, here's the quandry. Scott is beaming because he has fixed my shoes and saved a lot of money. Should I burst his excited bubble and be truthful? Should I act elated and hide my feelings of utter disappointment? Hmmm.

Well, I told him "thank you so much honey, you are very creative" and left it at that. I hid my emotions well and our morning of gift giving continued. As the festivities progressed I became more and more irritated. How could he do this to me? He knew I wanted those shoes . . . I told him exactly what I desired.

I went in our room to calm down and saw an old shoebox on the floor. I kicked it. Klunk. That is never a sound you like to hear when children live in the house. I was afraid to open it. But I sucked it up and did. My new Nike's dazzled my eyes.

Scott stood smiling in the doorway.

Friday, September 25, 2009

MACE

Being a minister's family usually means that people are over at the old homestead often.  Don't get me wrong, I totally love it.  Many of our friends and family have "refrigerator rights".  You know what I'm talking about.  People who come into your home, go to the refrigerator, open the door, look in, take out and eat without verbal permission.  This goes along with "front door rights", come on in without knocking first.

A gal we used as a babysitter in Oregon had all the above rights.  LJ was so dependable and our girls had a great time with her.  She was a PK and totally got us.  She was in high school and very mature . . .

She was over one night to visit.  She had her car keys out and we were talking about all the stuff on her chain.  She had a little can of mace.  She asked me "what do you think this would do if I sprayed just a little".  As I was saying "no", she sprayed.  Just a little squirt.

Keep in mind that in Oregon we have a/c in the summer.  That little spritz was sucked up in the system and dispersed throughout the house.  We were all coughing and wheezing and had to run outside.  We spent the next hour running in and out until the mace was filtered out of the house.  Mace is very potent.  I don't ever want to experience that again.

Rule of thumb.  Don't let a PK test a theory out in your home. 

Thursday, September 24, 2009

REMEMBER TELEPHONE CORDS

Some of us were around when telephones had the receivers attached by a long spring like cord. They were cumbersome and limited the ability to move around accomplishing a variety of tasks while talking on the phone. You had to stand right there and have a conversation.

We had just moved to HB and I was preparing to assume the coordinator responsibilities for the Wednesday MOPS group at FCCHB. I was speaking on the phone with the current coordinator and Shae was trying to claim my attention. I kept giving her the finger . . . you know, the one minute finger, not the rude, vulgar finger you may observe while driving. In any case, she was not responding to my "finger" and I turned my back to her so I could concentrate and finish my call quickly.

Apparently, I was unaware of Shae's adamant insistence on speaking with me now.

I had several items on the counter that I had been working on and was unaware of her cunning. Suddenly, the phone was dead and the cord was hanging from my ear. Shae had found the scissors I was using and cut the cord.

Her expression was one of confusion and fear. She was just as surprised as I was that her plan was executed perfectly. I couldn't help but belly laugh. I finally was able to reconnect with the coordinator and explain to her what had happened and we both enjoyed a good laugh.

Roderick's. Need I say more?

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

PICASSO

Nap time at the Roderick's was a blessed event.  It was the time when I could get all my house hold chores complete and maybe even enjoy a cup of much appreciated tea.  I was fortunate to have three really good nappers.  Bet you can guess who the one hold out was.

I had a monitor in Kelsey's nursery and turned it on when I put her down for sleepy time.  She was usually good for two or three hours of sleep and then a good half hour for playing and talking to herself as she peacefully awoke.  I loved just listening to her coos and baby noises while I finished up my responsibilities.  I tended to peek in the bedroom door and watch before I burst in and got them up. 

This day was no different.  I peeked in and saw that something was not quite right.  There were marks all over the crib and the wall.  What is that?  As I examined the area more closely I noticed Kelsey had similar marks all over her.  I wondered how did she get a hold of a marker in her crib and how did she get the lid off.  As I slowly opened the door, she saw me and held up her finger to show me the substance that was on it.  Horror of horrors . . . she had stuck her finger in her dirty diaper and was painting everything with poo!  I was mortified.  It was everywhere . . . all over her face, in her hair, on her sheets, on the walls, on her crib, on her clothes.

I grabbed her and took her straight to the bath.  She was the first priority after all.  I brushed her teeth, washed her hair and scrubbed every inch of her little body.  She smelled, once again, like a baby should.

Then I tackled the bedroom.  It took me hours to get the room sanitized and up to snuff.  Lysol, clorox and baking soda were my weapons of choice.

Just another day with a Roderick baby.

PEARLS

I was pretty relaxed when it came to professional baby portraits of the girls.  I just preferred the candid shots that we took on the spur of the moment.  But when Hope was born I decided I wanted a special shot of our last little baby.  So I set up an appointment with a local photographer and I knew exactly what I wanted.

Scott stayed home with the older girls and enjoyed a fun filled daddy-daughter evening, while Hope and I headed to the studio.  She was about three months old and I wanted an "au natural" shot.

We arrived right on time and the photographer was ready to shoot.  I got Hope undressed except for a little pink hairband and a long strand of pearls that I placed around her strategically.  She was laying on her tummy on a white fur rug.   The shot was set up perfectly.  She had the pearls in her little chubby hands and was intently examining them. 

Oh no, she rolled over and I had to reposition her.  When doing this particular shot, the photographer said readjustments must be expected, as Hope displayed for me.  As I picked her up she tinkled all over everything.  I had my hands under her arms and was holding her straight out from me as she was spraying everywhere and she kept going all the while a faint little smile on her angelic face.  I don't know where all that urine was stored, but she let it all out, seriously.  Apparently, Hope had a rather strong opinion of the the pose I had selected. We had to stop shooting and I had to wipe everything down.

The line in the waiting area began to get longer and longer, but I was not going to miss this opportunity for the perfect picture.  The photographer told me not to be concerned and that this sort of thing happened all the time, but I suspected that he was trying to put me at ease. 

We did get the perfect pictures and Hope was really into those pearls.  Her facial expressions were priceless.

We start exhibiting Roderick behaviors at a very young age.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

COMPASSION

I have a difficult time with compassion. If someone should happen to hurt me or someone I love, I don't easily forgive or forget. It is one of my many shortcomings and I have to spend much time in prayer and meditation. I tend to lash out, say things I don't mean and do things I would never do. It feels good for a moment and then I'm left with picking up the pieces.

I guess I often bring up past experiences in my life trek, how I felt in those circumstances, and transfer said emotions. Our girls share with us many activities that they are living and I can go right back to high school in a heart beat.

That unbearable, gut wrenching feeling when you've been rejected and unloved. The emotional roller coaster that takes you up so high you feel you can't breath and then drops you so low you feel you will never dig out. That one look from that special someone that can make or break you in a blink. Oh yea, I can go back there in a snap.

All our girls need is a great ear and a zipped mouth. Someone to really hear what they are saying. Someone to cry with them. Someone to say I love you no matter what. Someone to just be there. To know they have company on their spiritual journey. To know that someone has hurt the same way. Someone who can understand and empathize with them. Someone who can direct them on the path to Jesus.

I don't know if I am that someone, but I sure won't ever give up trying to be.

Monday, September 21, 2009

FORKING

Krispie Kreme had opened its doors in the OC. Everyone loved them. Especially the Rodericks. We would make donut runs at least once a week. Half the fun was jumping in the car at any hour and just driving over for a family road trip. Sometimes, however, there was reason for our madness.

The kids loved to go forking when they were younger. Forking was our answer to toilet papering. I like to be green when I can, so we fork. Sticking forks in the front yards of friends so that when they clean up they can keep our forks, thus forking someone else at a later date. Seems pretty green to me. Use those plastic forks again and again.

So we had selected our target family and were off to Krispie Kreme to pick up several dozen donuts, because, being Roderick's, we also have a plan for those as well.

The kids are ready, donning their black sweats. They also have the proper amount of black on their faces so will not easily be detected at the designated home. They are completely stealth. The family sits in their living room unaware of the havoc being wreaked on their personal property. After the deed has concluded, a dozen Krispie Kreme donuts are left on the front porch. Carefully the doorbell is rung and the hoodlums scatter quickly to the escape vehicle. Mission complete.

The next evening the girls are going to bed and talking about the adventures of the previous night. They are very proud of the fact that the family didn't suspect Roderick involvement. No phone call confirms this in their minds.

Morning comes to quickly. As we walk down the stairs there is something very strange. Yes, there are forks in our front yard. We have been hit. We run outside to survey the damage and collect the forks for our next assignment. We glance at the front door and there on the porch is a box of Krispie Kremes . . . an empty box.

We will execute our revenge some day.

BLANKET

As you all know, Addison is the one Roderick who always must learn the hard way.  It is her nature to push the envelope, always challenge the rules and rarely do what she is told the first time.  God made her so that Scott and I could learn patience and celebrate the unique little girl she was.

As you know from previous blogs, I had a jewelry box that the girls were not permitted to play with unless I was with them.  Addison had trouble following this guideline.  Once again, I found her in my room playing with my jewelry.  She loved to challenge my authority if only to watch my reaction.  Many times with this kid I felt I was being set up, she was that savvy.  No kidding.

This time, however, I decided to try a new approach.  I explained to Adds that she was playing with something that was very important and precious to me.  I needed her to understand the logical consequences of her actions.  So I informed her that I was going to help her remember how I felt when she didn't follow the rules.

I proceeded to go into her room and take her blanket.  Now this blanket was a very special part of her.  She slept with it, she dragged it everywhere and she would hang very close to me when we had to wash it.  It was her security and she was very attached to it.

We sat down on the couch and I explained that the way she felt about her blanket was the same way I felt about my jewelry and the box I kept it in.  I could tell that she was following my every word and she "got" what I was communicating to her.

I then shared with her that I would be sleeping with her blanket that night.  Her eyes began to tear up and it was breaking my heart, but I had to teach her, in a very tangible way, that following the rules, any rule, was critical.

It was a long night but Adds grasped the idea.  She never touched my jewelry again and she was thrilled in the morning to have her blanket back safe and sound.

Once again we're Rodericks, and like it or not, it's how we roll.  

Sunday, September 20, 2009

CALLING COWS

Once again, we made a trip to my families farm in Illinois.  The whole Roderick clan went and what a time we had.  Weinie roasts, animals, words of questionable origin, story after story and kids everywhere.  You name it, we did it, said it, found it, ate it, got it, lost it.

We were out by the chicken coop just hanging with the girls collecting eggs, chasing chickens and talking.  My uncle came out and told the kids it was time to feed the cows.  The girls looked around and couldn't see any cows.  Then they looked at me as if to say this uncle is a couple bales shy of a tractor load.

Then Uncle Jack yelled "Come onnnnnnnnn, cows."  "COME ONNNNNNN, COWS."

There was a rumble underneath the ground.  We looked way down into the field as the dust began to rise.  The rumble turned into a loud roar.  The cows were stampeding up to the barn.  It was a sight to see.

Addison was over the fence in a split second,  fear written all over her face.  Shae ran to the fence but was to little to jump over.  So you guessed it.  Addison one armed her over with one smooth motion.  Kelsey walked around to the gate and I had Hope with me on the safe side.

We didn't think the cows were going to stop, but stop they did, on a dime.  Right in front of the feed stalls.

The girls don't care for cows to this day. 

CRACKERS

Most of the Randolph side of the family reside in the midwest.  And the majority of them are tried and true farmers.  Some livestock, but most have acres of corn.  As far as you can see there are corn fields.  It was so fun to run through those fields when we were kids.  Sometimes, on a still day, you could lay in the field and hear the corn grow.  I know, you think I've been hitting the xanex a little to hard, but I kid you not.

My Uncle Jack and Aunt Ava have about 40 acres on which at any given time they have cows, donkeys, chickens, goats, geese and yes, dogs and cats.  Now this particular dog had no papers and was not registered AKC.  He is an all American mutt.

My dad told Shae, when she was probably around three years old, about this very special dog.  This dog, he shared, was a talking dog.  And this dog, it was said, had quite a vocabulary.  Not only that, but he could perform.  Grandad got a treat and told Crackers to sit.  Crackers sat.  He told Crackers to shake.  Crackers shook.  He told Crackers to roll over.  Crackers rolled over.

Now Shae asked Grandad to make Crackers talk.  So Grandad got a treat and told Crackers to say please.  Silence.  Grandad said again "Crackers say please."  Silence.

Shae looked Crackers straight in the eye and said "Well . . . say it."  Grandad busted up.

She's a Roderick, what can I say.

Saturday, September 19, 2009

COOKIES

The Randolph side of the family lives in Salt Lake City and they love to come to the beach to visit the Roderick's.  We have such a grand time laughing, sharing stories and in general just being together.  As you well know, when you visit the Roderick's something absurd and/or insanely funny will surely happen.

This time was no different.  We went out to dinner at our favorite burger joint, In & Out, and had our fill of cheeseburgers, fries and shakes.  As usually happens, my dad starts telling tales of his youth and my girls are caught up in each and every word.  Dad is a great story teller.

We finished our meal and head home with distended bellies and happy hearts.  We relish the time we spend with the grandparents.  We all go inside and start bustling around, tidying up, doing dishes and start getting ready to sit down and watch some home videos, another favorite past time.

I had gone to Petco and picked up some doggie treats.   I love to fix up a cute little bag with paw prints and all tied up with ribbon, just to make it special for our beloved K-9's.  I set the bag on the counter and went to grab D. & D.   I try to encourage the pups to earn the treats by doing little tricks.  Low and behold, someone had already gotten into my bag.  I inquired of the children which one had done the dirty deed and no one would confess.

I glanced at my dad and he had a peculiar expression.  That was odd.  My dad has a great disposition and this just wasn't like him, something was off.  He turned his head slightly and said "It wasn't the girls who got into the doggie treats.  I ate one and thought you had bought the worst cookies ever."

It could only happen when the Randolph's visit the Roderick's.

PUPPY WALK

I have a routine. I walk with a bunch of friends three days a week. It's good for mind, spirit and body and I love my time on the road, so to speak.

Today Addison and Gamble walked with us.

Now Adds is not known for her patience and Gamble is known to smell everything in sight when she walks. Gamble is also unacustomed to walking long distances. She is only 5 months old and Kelsey takes her on short walks instead of the monster walks we do down here in SoCal. This was going to be an adventure.

Now our walk down to the beach was uneventful. Gamble kept up and did do some smelling, but generally, she didn't annoy Addison. We stopped at Starbucks for our typical caffeine hit and revived, began our return.

Gamble decided to poo again, her alotted bag already used and disposed of, so I found a cup that someone had tossed. Hey, I do my part for the environment. Picked up trash and used it to pick up poop. It was a twofer.

So, we're walking and chatting and Gamble is getting tired. Adds picked her up a couple of times, but she kept wanting back down so Adds would release her. I am not paying much attention when suddenly, out of my peripheral vision, I see Gamble. Something is wrong, her leash is to tight.

Yeh, Gamble is laid out completely and Adds is now dragging her down the street. Literally pulling her down the street on her side, no leg action whatsoever. Addison does not feel the tension on the leash because she is so wrapped up in conversation.

Hey, it you ever what to take your dog out for a drag, call a Roderick.

Friday, September 18, 2009

KELSEY & VBS

Our first born child was an experiment in parenting. It was trial and error. Sometimes we felt like we had ruined her for life and occasionally we surmised we were the best parents ever. Both extremes were dangerous as Kelsey taught us frequently.

Addison was born on Sunday night before the beginning of Kelsey's first VBS experience. She was very excited and Scott would get up, take her to church and then come over to the hospital to visit Addi and I. We came home late Tuesday morning and picked up Kelsey on our way to the house. She was potty taught but still had the occasional accident. I worked with her during the week and was confident she was ready to remain in big girl panties.

Friday evening was the big VBS hoohah and Kelsey was very anxious to show us what she had learned during the week. They had been practicing a musical extravaganza as only a VBS program can and tonight was the night.

Kelsey was in the youngest group and she was all dolled up for her debut performance in a church production. The kids were all in place on the platform and the show began with much pomp and circumstance. Kelsey was in the front row singing at the top of her lungs with a huge goofy grin. She was very proud.

As I watched the performance I noticed Kelsey's facial expression changed to one of thoughtfulness. She looked down at her pant leg as it changed from red to maroon and then she looked up and continued singing. The spot continued to grow and I watched in horror as my kid peed on the platform. She finished her song, returned to her seat and I sneaked up and grabbed her so that I could get her in dry clothes.

In my haste to gather all of Addison's gear I forgot to pack Kelsey a clean set of clothes. My mom had a pair of undies stashed in her purse so I grabbed those. Kelsey finished off her VBS maiden voyage in a darling top and a pair of big girl panties.

Kelsey never was one to hold back while in front of an audience.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

WE GOT RIPPED OFF

Scott and I had just gotten back from Costco and were unloading all the stuff. I hate these trips because one, we spend to much and two, putting it all away is a real pain. This being said, I do enjoy consuming all the yummy goodies we bring home.

We left the garage door open because we were going in and out unloading the car. I finished putting groceries away and Scott was putting freezer stuff in the garage. I started blogging and there was a knock at the door. I couldn't tell who it was as Scott answered it. He shot outside and I was curious as to what in the world was going on. I heard the door slam and he races in and yells "Someone stole two of our bikes. That was the neighbor and she told me which way they went. I'm going after them." All the while he is grabbing his phone, car keys and sunglasses and is out the door.

This is Scott's story as only he could tell it to me.

These two kids were walking through the neighborhood casing houses and looking for houses of "opportunity", apparently of which ours was one. The lady a couple of houses away, saw it all go down and she came running up to relay what she observed.

Scott takes off down the street and through the tract looking for these kids. Now these "children" are not what you would call "blending" into the community. He has a foot high black mohawk, no shirt and they are both carrying scummy looking backpacks. She is dressed sleazily with lots of heavy make-up. Not beach looking kids, so to speak.

Scott finds them, with our bikes, stopped in a driveway, trying to fix one of the wheels. Let me interject that when jacking a bike one should make sure that what you're stealing rides properly. One of the bikes was not in complete functioning order, so they had to stop and try to do some repairs.

A neighbor, unaware of the situation, is helping them. Scott drives up and says "you stole my bikes out of my garage, I am calling the police". The neighbor holds up his hands and says "I don't know . . . " and Scott interrupts him telling him that he understands what is going on. The two kids just walk away as if to say "oh well, this sucks."

Scott is on the phone with the dispatcher now and is relaying information to the police. He asks our neighbor to watch the bikes, which he gladly does, and Scott starts following these criminals.

He follows them to the school field and watches them cross out of his sight as one squad car drives up. He relays what he knows and follows the black and white. Now the following happens all at once. These two brilliant perps walk out of the school. Right behind them is a school administrator. Four more squad cars come screeching up. The fifth squad car comes back to our street to pick up the neighbor lady so that she can identify the two young felons, which she does without question.

The officers nabbed the kids and frisk them. While going through their backpacks they discover the girl has a knife. The boy took a screwdriver from our neighbor, maybe, to use as a weapon. They are both juveniles, which was disappointing to the HBPD because it is a felony to remove property from a garage and HB doesn't see a lot of big time crime, thus the five squad cars.

Scott comes home to get me to help him bring the bikes home and guess who is at the neighbors' house? That's right CSI! I get to watch them put on the latex gloves, dust for prints, take pictures, record damage, etc. It was so cool.

We have our bikes back and the police department is going to keep us posted on what goes down next. I can not believe those two kids just walked into our garage, took out two bikes and rode off with them. As a sidebar, our dogs were barking like crazy and we just told them to be quiet. Maybe they were trying to warn us.

Ah, well. We are Roderick's. We would expect nothing less.

LITTLE SHAE AND THE SWING

Shae always loved her swing.  Back in our days of babyhood, they had to be manually wound up to move.  No batteries for me in the '90's .  I had to exert energy and a chat to set Shae's world in motion.

Little Shae was about 2 months old when she discovered her world was not as safe as she thought.  She had a devious older sister, who was 3 and under no circumstances could said sister ever be trusted.

I would wind Shae up and step away to do some sort of chore that beckoned my attention.  Addison would lie in wait.  When the coast was clear she would jump out, run over and give Shae a big, hearty push, that would send Shae's swing flying.  Shae would wring her chubby, little hands, exhale a stuttered breath and search for her mother to protect her.  Addison would sneak away to hide and plan her next attack.

Unfortunately, this was the first of many frightening adventures little Shae would experience with Addison.  When parenting, one may never let down one's guard.  I am amazed that Shae is as mentally stable as she is having endured the many pranks her older sister tried out on her.

I wonder what Addison's kids will be like?

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

BACON AND BUTTER

My mom puts butter on everything . . . I mean everything.

The girls love to go to grammy's house because they can order anything they want for breakfast and my mom will make it for them hands down. Hey, she makes me what I want to, it's what she does and I milk it when I'm home.

Hope always wants toast and butter. That's her delight when we're in Utah. Why? Because Hope loves butter. She licks the butter off her toast and grammy puts more on. Her toast is so soggy by the time she finishes I have to leave the table . . . I can't watch.

My favorite is bacon and eggs, over easy. For some reason my mom's bacon tastes better than mine. I don't know why . . . I've tried her brand, watched her cook it and even purchased her brand of skillet. I can't do it. It's a mom thing.

Hope tried a piece of my bacon once and decided she liked it. She added a little something . . . butter on her bacon. She chowed down and I had to leave the table. Dry heaving and gagging.

I can hear another Roderick's arteries clogging.

A REGULAR DAY

It started out a regular day in September.  Got the girls off to school and Shae and I were picking up the house.  And then . . .

Scott was still not feeling well.  As a matter of fact, he hadn't felt well all week and I had taken him the doctor several times with no diagnosis.  I hesitated to leave Shae with him while I ran to my OB appointment, but what choice did I have?

Weighed and wait was the usual routine and that day was no different.  Dr. Binet came in, looked at my chart and with a concerned nod asked "What is going on?  You've lost 7 pounds a week before your delivery date."  I explained to him about Scott and he looked up over his glasses and told me not to loose anymore and continued with my exam.

I went home, fatigued, worried about the baby and Scott and just tired of being pregnant.  I was ready to have this baby.

About 3:00p I started timing the contractions and the neighborhood had bets on who would drive to the hospital, me or Scott.  Scott ended up driving and we arrived at about 5:00p.

Now Scott was still in bad shape.  He had lost 15 pounds over the last several days and his doctor was also concerned, but this was about me and the baby so he was by my side, sick or not.  That, however, was all he was, by my side.  No help whatsoever.

Dr. Binet came in and said "You look terrible" as he glanced over at Scott.  Scott just grimaced.  I asked the doctor if it was safe for him to be here for the birth and he seemed ok with it, so I let Scott stay.

Hope was born.  Scott cut the cord.  Said "good by" to me, and looked at Hope.  Then he went home to get some much needed rest.

She was perfect.  Twenty-one inches long, 7lbs. 7ozs, and dazzling.  Angie, my good friend, brought the girls up to see her and they were awed and loved her immediately.  My mom would fly in tomorrow morning.  I cuddled my baby girl for hours and dozed off and on all night.  I was scheduled for a tubal ligation in the morning, but a solid sleep alluded me.

Scott did not arrive in time to see me off to surgery.  I was very put out with him.  He prayed with every other hospitalized person at church and missed his own wife's send off.  Needless to say, I was no longer sympathetic to his plight.  I came back to my room from surgery to find a note on my pillow.  SCOTT IN ER.  What?

What?  He had woken that morning and was worse and had gone to ER as soon as he got to the hospital.  What is going on?

His doctor finally called me and said the following "We have admitted Scott with lower lobe pneumonia."  Your kidding, right?

Nope.  Scott, Hope and I were in the hospital all at the same time.  We were celebrities at Rogue Valley Medical Center.  Ever heard of a family birth.  Well we were the real deal that day in September.

Hope and I left the next morning and Scott stayed for 4 more days.  He didn't hold Hope until she was almost a week old.  It took way longer for him to recover from Hope's birth than it did me!

Happy Birthday, Hope.  You know the rest of story and it's your to share.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

MANNEQUIN

Kelsey was in middle school when she decided her room needed a change of decor.  She wanted a mannequin.  Huh, didn't see that coming, but she has a very retro streak so I humored her and  we started looking.

Now mannequins are not easy to come by as I soon found out.  I spent several hours on the phone and several more frequenting garage sales.  I finally found one at Nordstrom's in the Brea Mall.

I piled Kelsey, Addison and Bridgett in the Expedition and off we went.  I was told to go to customer service and ask for Eric in display.  He was paged and we waited browsing through shoes.  I saw him first, coming down the escalator.

Now most people would have guessed by this time that our friend Eric in display was gay, but it didn't cross my mind until that very moment.  There he was, hand on hip, spiked black hair, dark glasses and a harvest orange fur jacket.  He came sauntering up, asked if I were Cindy and mentioned that there were darling bags that matched the shoes we were looking at.  The girls just stood there.  Addison and Bridgett looked at me and Kelsey was trying her best to keep a straight face.  I kept giving them the Mom stare, you know the one.  Don't say a word or you will be in big trouble.

Eric lead us to a white locked door, used his key and we followed him in.  This closet was the creepiest closet I have ever walked into.  Imagine all these body parts laying out.  Male and female, anatomically correct, eyes opened, some closed, hair or no hair, skinny and skinnier, ethic or no ethnicity, twisted wrists, nail polish, no nail polish, eyelashes or not . . . really, really creepy.  The girls stayed right next to me.  

Kelsey made her selection,  I paid Eric and he carried the mannequin out to the car.  We laid her across the back seats because she was so tall and didn't bend at the waist.  Eric blew us kisses and told us if we ever needed more just come find him.

We drove home with this naked lady laid out for the world to see.  And see they did.  We had to endure pointing, snickering, shocked stares and several screaming children.  Truly, I was worried we may be pulled over as murder suspects.  But Kelsey had her mannequin.

What parents will do for there kids.

Monday, September 14, 2009

FLAT ROCK RUN

Several summers ago the Randolph side of the family decided to float the Green River below Flaming Gorge Dam in Utah. We all met in Salt Lake City for our grand adventure. Even Grammy and Grandad joined us for the great escape. We drove up to the Dam with all the crew and had a great evening anticipating our trip in the morning.

We awoke, ate breakfast and were on our way. We all pulled on our life jackets and boarded the rafts. It was so gorgeous. The ice cold water from the spring snow melt. The trout swimming in abundance. The trees along the shore. Breathtaking.

Scott asked Jeff if he would like to try a flat rock run. He proceeded to explain what it was and Jeff, being the boy that he was, said he was up to the challenge.

We looked for the perfect rock for the performance. We found it and set up our strategy. Scott would guide the raft into the rock, Jeff would jump out as the raft turned around the rock, he would run up and launch himself back into the raft. The timing had to be perfect.

As we got closer, Jeff was preparing himself for the challenge. The raft hit the rock perfectly and Jeff was out and running up the rock. Everything was working just as we planned. The raft turned and Scott yelled "Jump". Jeff froze. "Jump" Scott said again. We were around the rock and floating further down the river. "JUMP" . . . and he did right into the freezing cold water. He was swimming towards the raft at this point and Addison is starting to freak out. He gets within her arms reach, and I kid you not, she reaches out with one hand grabs his life jacket and pulls him into the boat. That little twig of a girl had super powers for that instant.

It was silent for a minute. And then we all burst into laughter. Our whole raft was laughing so hard we were crying. We had another story to tell.

We're Roderick's. That's what we do.

DISNEYLAND BATHROOM

Our dear friends from Medford came down to SoCal when our kids were all little. Two of them were trying to conquer the potty, which made for an interesting trip to Disneyland.

Everyone decided to go on one of the big rides in the happiest place on earth, so I told them to go have fun and I will stay with Sean and Hope. They were too little to ride and I had ridden those things so many times I was happy to take a buy.

Sean, Hope and I were standing with all the strollers and both the kids thought they needed to go potty. So, with one on each hand, off we went in search of a toilet.

We arrived at our destination and found an empty stall. Hope went rather quickly and uneventfully. Sean, however was a different story. Being Roderick's, it is unfamiliar territory when dealing with the male anatomy.

Sean is standing, with pants around his ankles, and the stream is running. Hope is checking out his bottom and decides he needs a little pat. She does this very gently and Sean looks over his shoulder to take a peek. Hope gives him this flirty little smile and continues her patting until Sean is finished and is pulling up his pants. Now he looks at Hope and flashes a grin.

Ahhh, young love and me without a camera. Priceless.

RATS

Addison was about 4 years old when she started having accidents again . . . toileting accidents. I couldn't figure out what the problems was. She had been toilet taught since she was 2 1/2 years old. What is going on?

Being the involved mother that I am, I decided it was time for a serious chat. I sat her on the potty and I sat on the floor and started the interogation. It went something like this.

Mama: "Explain to mama why you are not going on the potty anymore."
Addison: Silence.
Mama: "Can't you tell mama what's wrong?"
Addison: Silence, but looking behind her into the toilet.
Mama: "Why are you looking in the toilet?"
Addison: "Because that's where the rats live."

Now this was a revelation. There had been construction going on in the field next to our cul-de-sac and it had displaced the local rat population. We could hear rats occasionally under our house and had contacted Vector Control to deal with the issue.

Mama: "How do you know rats live in the toilet?"
Addison: "Because Kelsey said they crawl up and will bite my bottom when I go potty."
Mama: "Kelsey was kidding you. Rats don't live in the toilet."
Addison: "I no like Kelsey."

And there you have it. Mystery solved.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

THE BEESLAYERS

I told Scott that somehow bees were getting in the house.  I didn't know how they were doing it, but please check in out.  He assured me he would.  I went to work.

I came home and this is the story Scott, Shae and Chase relayed to me.

Scott attempted to get an exterminator but couldn't find one who would come out on a Saturday . . . weird.  He arranged for one to come first thing Monday morning.  He knew he had to do something before then or I would not be sleeping at home that night.

So, being the man who takes care of me, he took up the fight and found bees in the chimney.  A whole hive to be exact, so he put plastic over the fireplace, assuming bees can not penetrate plastic.  Well, they can and they did.  Even our little puppies knew something was very wrong. They sat and stared at the fireplace, barking.

So, Scott donned his bee keeper uniform . . . a plastic bag over his head, oven mitts, long pants and long sleeve shirt.  He then removed the plastic and started a fire in the fireplace. Apparently, that really makes bees mad, so they started swarming inside the house and outside.

Well, the lady next door to us is allergic to bees so she freaked out when bees started pelting her window.  She may have also been alarmed at the smoke rising from our chimney . . . it was July.  So that's right . . . she called 911.  Two big engines headed for the Roderick home.

Now, Hope was at a birthday party down the street, which halted mid party to watch the fire engines . . . stopping at her house.  She came home all distraught wondering what had happened.  Shae and Chase pull up in the car and they're thinking Scott had a heart attack or something horrible.

Scott answers the door in his "uniform" and firefighters think "mental illness" call.  Scott explained to the firefighters about the bees and all the firefighters could say was good luck and the whole troop jumped back in their engines and left.  Their job was done.

So Scott, Shae, and Chase were left to fight the bees by themselves.  It was on.

They all grabbed fly swatters and went to work.  Chase killed over 30.  Shae got about 12 and Scott didn't keep track.

When the exterminator came out on Monday he told Scott that yes, we had a hive, but it was empty.  He said Scott had done a great job at getting rid of the bees.

Then he handed him a bill for $100.00.

Just another day at the Roderick house.

BRICK

Remember when I told you we lived on a safe cul-de-sac?  Well, I've got another story that may create some doubt.

Kelsey was outside playing with the kids next door. These boys were totally out of control.  They convinced Kelsey to help "polish" their grandma's car . . . with sand!  Grandma was none to pleased with that wax job, needless to say.  The car was a mess and I never did get the whole story.  Was K a participant or an observer?  One will never know.

Those same two boys and Kelsey were playing Power Rangers out in our driveway one evening.  The boys dad was working on their patio and had old bricks stacked in their side yard.

At some point, the kids decided to nab a brick.  They were going to see who could throw it the highest.  The first try was up, up and away and down, down, down, grazing Kelsey's head.

She ended up with a pretty good sized bump, but was otherwise unharmed, thankfully.

I'm surprised child services was never called on me.




THE GARAGE DOOR

When the girls were little we lived on a cul-de-sac.  It was great because all the neighborhood kids could play together and be safe.  At least that's what we thought.  We forgot to factor in Addison.

Scott, for whatever reason, taught the kids in the neighborhood how to ride the garage door.  Follow me, now, as I walk you through it.  When the garage door is opening, you grab onto the bottom and ride until it starts rolling back and then you drop off.  So fun, right?  Yeah. 

This was entertaining for awhile and most of the kids had a good ride and lost interest.  I decided this form of activity had indeed had a good run, but I was finished with standing out there watching them go up and down.  No more riding the garage door was now an edict I decreed.

One afternoon, several days later, I heard the garage door opening.  Those kids, I thought, and I spinted to the door to administer some mom style discipline.  This is what I observed.

The garage door was rising and not one child was hanging on it.  They were all watching Addison.

She was standing on the bottom of the door, clinging to the joint, and riding it up.  It started turning inward taking her with it.  As it turned, she turned with it until she started slipping from the a ceiling . . . like a cat would do. 

I saw it happening and raced towards her in an attempt to catch her as she fell towards the cement.  I made it and caught her around the waist avoiding any broken bones.  However, I didn't stop her face from kissing the pavement.  Through blood, although minimum, and sobs I assessed the situation.  She looked like Carl Mauldin.  We ran in and put ice on her nose and she didn't want to play the rest of the day.  Embarrassed.  All the kids had witnessed this event.

The next morning, she walked in our room.  Two black eyes and a bruised nose.  No swelling, not broken.

No kid ever rode our garage door again.




Saturday, September 12, 2009

MEDITATION

I have decided to implement a new concept in my daily quiet time.  I am going to start thinking about Scott for 10 minutes every day.  Uninterrupted Scott meditation . . . just thinking about him and what blessings he has given me.  Four beautiful daughters, a comfortable home, so much laughter and yes, some tears.  He is so much more than I could ever have imagined.

Some times I take for granted how much he means to me.  He is so important in my life that it is difficult to find words to express my emotional attachment to him.  He is my rock, solid in every aspect of our lives.  I trust him with every secret, every morsel, every tidbit of my being.

May we continue to grow in our love for God, in our love for our girls and in our love for each other.



  

MARCIA

Kelsey was two when she really took off talking.  She was very verbal and people could actually understand her most of the time.  We were at the mall shopping for Easter dresses when she started talking about this woman named Marcia.

Now, I had no idea who this Marcia was and kept asking Kelsey about her.  Kelsey said to me "You know mama, Marcia, you know".  This was getting frustrating.  Who is this lady?

Easter was closing in on us and Kelsey just kept talking about Marcia.  We colored Easter eggs together and Kelsey kept saying "Marcia will love these".  I just didn't understand it.  Who is this woman and what does she know about my daughter.  It was freaking me out.

Easter eve Kelsey was all smiles when I tucked her into her little bed.  She smiled and said "Tomorrow, mama, Marcia is coming".  I still couldn't figure this one out.  Weird.  I had finally decided this gal must be someone from church that Kelsey had met in the nursery.  Kelsey knew it was an important day at church and she must expect Marcia to be there.  I really didn't have any other clues.

Easter morning we had to get up very early because our church had a sunrise service.  Kelsey raced out to find her Easter basket and was so excited as she exclaimed "Marcia came, she came."

Apparently, Kelsey was on a first name basis with the Easter bunny.

BUSINESS TIME

Last night we stayed up until the girls got home from the football game.  HBHS did not fare well and they shared the nights comings and goings with us.  Seems they had a lot of time on their hands as the score kept running up.

After several minutes of conversation, I retired to do my bed time reading.  Round 6 of the "Twilight" saga must be given the proper respect.  Scott soon followed and a few minutes later he began his night time ritual.  You know shaving, tooth brushing, flossing, drinking a glass of water and toilet time.

He finished up and came to the side of the bed and just stood there.  I glanced up at him and he had that "business time" gleam in his eye.  He slid, ever so gently, between the sheets and leaned in for a kiss.  He then proceeded to rip one off so loud that it rattled the house.

Yeah, honey, that will get me in the mood.

Friday, September 11, 2009

SPACE SHUTTLE

You won't believe this.  

Scott, Hope and I were watching the space shuttle landing on TV.  The reporter was on the ground giving a play by play description of the event.  A train went by and blew it's horn as he was reporting.

Hope asked "Is that the space shuttle honking?"

Yeah, she's a Roderick. 

Thursday, September 10, 2009

STAIRS & BUCKETS

You know we always expected our girls to behave properly when we were gone. You know, use common sense, be safe. How stupid can two parents be?

We went out for the evening and Kelsey was baby sitting her siblings. We instructed her on the evenings activities and left with happy hearts. The kids were having pizza and we were off to a well deserved adult dinner. What we came home to was disturbing, to say the least.

We have a two story house. The upstairs railing is open to a vaulted ceiling. Not a problem for us when a parent is home. Big problem when one is not.

The girls had a rope over the railing and had tied it to a bucket and were playing what they termed as "elevator".

Yep, one daughter would get in the bucket and the others would lower her down to the first floor. DANGER, DANGER, DANGER. Kelsey what were you thinking? You or your sisters could have been seriously injured or worse. This is not OK.

She looked at me and in all seriousness said "Mom, do you know how hard it is to keep these kids entertained?"

Uhhh . . . no, Kelsey I don't.

OLIVE ON YOUR TOOTH

As you all know, Scott is responsible for small groups at our church.  This entails visiting many SG's to monitor what they are doing and answering questions they may have regarding their status.

One evening, he was hurrying around the house trying to get to a group.  I had a build your own taco evening meal, with sour cream, tortillas, cheese, hamburger, lettuce, tomatoes, beans and black olives.  Scott quickly built his taco, sucked it down, kissed me good by and ran out the front door.

Later that evening, he returned, exhausted.

I noticed immediately that something was very wrong.  I asked him to smile again and right there on his front tooth was a black olive.

I asked him if he had more black olives at the group and he looked at me quizzically and said no.  I replied with humor in my voice.  "Oh my goodness!  You spent the whole evening with a black olive on your tooth!"

I wonder whatever happened to that group.

THE BIRDS

Our kids always wanted us to show them a scary movie. I kept saying no, no, no, well maybe . . . and then they wore me down. I said yes . . . but I get to pick the movie.

Now, there are a lot of scary movies out there. I didn't realize so many existed. So I thought if I went back a few years, way back, I may be able to find something suitable. I went back to the 1960's to a little flick called "The Birds". Yeah, I know, Alfred Hitchcock, black and white, how bad can it be?

Well, we watched it as a family. Kelsey, Addison and Shae's comments were "that was dumb" and "that wasn't scary" and "yeah, mom, I was so scared". Hope just stared at me and quietly smiled.

Several days later, all the kids were out front playing and Scott was working in the garage. I was doing something in the house and I hear this horrible commotion going on outside. A murder of crows flew by and they were L.O.U.D.

Scott, being who he is, started screaming "the birds, the birds," and running around with his hands in the air. The 3 older girls looked at him and returned to there game at hand. Hope however, was petrified. She came running in the house with terror in her eyes and a quivering lower lip.

Hope stayed with her momma the rest of the day not venturing outside again.

BUTTHEAD

When our girls were little we had a bad word list.  Words like "shut-up", "stupid" and "butthead" topped the list.  We wanted the girls to use happy words.  What planet did we live on?

Addison and Scott were wrestling one afternoon and I was in the kitchen piddling around.  The family room was attached so I caught a glimpse of the match every once in a while.  It was entertaining and all our girls looked forward to these wrestling matches.

All of a sudden, I saw Addi jump up, turn around and with an angry face yell at her dad calling him a  "BUTTHEAD"!  Apparently she was unhappy with one of her dad's moves.   Scott's face was priceless.  Shocked, stunned, surprised, to name a few adverbs that come to mind.

I fell behind the kitchen counter, laughing hysterically and trying not to wet my pants.

IT'S ME OH LORD

Once again, Addison was the one who challenged me.

I had a jewelry box in our bedroom that was never to be touched by small hands. The girls knew that they were not to play with it unless I was with them. I would pick out pieces that they could use and then replace said pieces when they finished dazzling each other. It was a very special activity saved for those times when I needed to interest them in something quiet.

I was busy in the kitchen and the girls were in the dorm (we called their bedroom the dorm because all 3 girls shared it). Or, so I thought all 3 girls were in the dorm.

It got awfully quiet and that always means trouble in a house full of kids. I went to check on the miniature disturbers of the peace and Addison was not there. And where was she . . . that's right, in our bedroom playing with the jewelry box that is never to be touched.

I promptly told her to go to the family room and sit on the couch while I thought about what to do with her. Discipline and Addison were always a tricky combination and I needed time to contemplate my options.

As I was sitting on the bed weighing my choices, I heard a faint, angelic voice drifting from the family room.

"It's me, it's me, it's me, oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer . . . "

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

SO, YOU WANT TO DATE A RODERICK

OK. We think we finally have it right. It has taken us several years of practice, trial and error, boyfriends, breakups and rule breaking. But it has been perfected and is effective immediately.

EXPECTATIONS FOR DATING OUR DAUGHTER(S)

1. We expect that you will bring her home exactly as she left with you or better. If you bring her home in tears, they had better be happy ones.

2. We expect you to come to the door to get her as well as walk her to the door when you bring her home.

3. We expect you to always put her safety and well being first and foremost. She is very valuable to us and she is our top priority.

4. We expect you to open and close car doors as well as other doors that will need opening during the time she spends with you.

5. We expect you to pull out every chair for her.

6. We expect you to treat her as a princess because that is exactly what she is to us.

7. We expect you to take her to places that would meet with our approval. She deserves respect at all times. Never embarrass her or us.

8. We expect you to take financial responsibility for your outing unless something else has been pre-arranged with her.

9. We expect you to respect the rules of our home while you are with our daughter, including no sex, no drugs, no drinking, PERIOD. This expectation may be altered when our daughter(s) turns 21 and will be in effect as long as she lives in our home.

10. We expect that you will attend one church service every weekend with our daughter. You and she may work out the details.

All right boys, bring it.

YOU'RE A GRAND OLD FLAG

Shae, our third daughter, is so many wonderful things. But a singer, she is not. As a general rule she loves to sing, however she lacks pitch and a beat. This has not stopped her, however, and she continues to listen to her iPod tunes and attempts to belt out the melodies right along with them. Sometimes I must beg her to stop, I kid you not. It really is quite sad.

There was a time when her singing was utterly enjoyable. Her little voice was so angelica it brought a tear to my eye. Allow me to elaborate.

She was in pre-kindergarten and her class was doing a unit on America and what it meant to be patriotic. They learned about George Washington, the president, Abe Lincoln and many songs, but one in particular she absolutely loved.

We would be driving along, taking a walk, watching T.V. It didn't matter where or when, if she spotted a United States of America Flag she would burst into a vivacious rendition of "You're a Grand Old Flag". As she belted out the melody she would say "Join me" and we would all sing along as she led us in the chorus. I can't remember how many times we broke into song while cruising around HB, but suffice it to say that it was more than a few.

It was cute back in the day . . . now it just annoys us.

OUTLET

We used to say that if we could get Addison through the preschool years without severe injury it would be remarkable. Obviously, she made it and we have many stories to tell. Let me share one with you.

She was about 3 years old and Kelsey had left for school. Scott and I were in our bedroom making up the bed and chatting and we thought Ads was in the family room watching "Lady and the Tramp". Oh no, no, no. She had found Scott's car keys and that devious little mind of hers was tracking on what to do with said keys. She discovered an outlet in the hall that I had neglected to apply a crucial safety device in. Not that any safety device would have discouraged her. Huge error in judgement on my part, especially living with one as notorious as Addison.

Suddenly, we heard a buzz and the power went out in the whole house.

Instantly, we knew it was Addison who had committed some sort of scandalous act. We ran out of the room to see Addi standing in the hall with eyes as big as cupcakes looking straight at us. She was holding the smoldering and melted key in her tight little hand. The outlet was scorched, but miraculously she had apparently been holding onto the rubber handle of the key. She wasn't even singed.

When living with a child like Addison, one's only choice is to believe in the one true God.

KINDERGARTEN

A great many of you have kids that started kindergarten this week. Let me just say that we did it 4 times and it was always hard to kiss the little squirts farewell. But we lived through it, although the first child did have some, shall we say, incidents. The fault was not hers in any way, it was once again that dastardly mother.

Kindergarten had been going along without a hitch. Kelsey loved her teacher, the kids, walking to school, in short, she loved it all. September flew by and before we knew it we were in October and planning for Halloween.

I had planned to dress the girls up as M&M's . . . you know, the candy. Kelsey would be red, Addison green and baby Shae was yellow. I finished sewing their costumes and they fit perfectly. WOW! Those Roderick girls were gonna be so cute on the trick or treating trail.

But first, there would be the kindergarten party to attend. Now when I was growing up we would dress up for school in our costumes so that all our friends could see each other. Made total sense to me.

So on Halloween morning, I got Kelsey all decked out in the red M&M costume. She was darling. I gave her a kiss at the door and off to school she went with the neighborhood kids.

When I picked her up I noticed that the kids did not have costumes on. I thought this a bit odd, but then I chalked it up to a change of clothes. Kelsey talked about the party all the way from school. Finally, I was able to ask her about the other kids costumes. She boldly said "No one else wore their costume." I began to panic. What had I done to this poor child's self esteem? I have ruined her fragile little psyche. She is going to be in therapy for years.

"I am so sorry Kelsey. I thought everyone would dress up for the holiday. How did the kids feel about your costume. Did they tease you?" I said.

She looked at me with this huge grin and replied "No, they LOVED me".

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

THE HURDLES

Occasionally, we love to get out of town with our good friends, the Hurdles. We enjoy their company so much that weekend getaways are not the same without a little Hurdle humor. They make us laugh, cry, cringe, frown, whatever. We've been to Kuaui, Las Vegas, Seattle and several small outings in between. One particular trip to Las Vegas always springs to mind when I think of our dear friends.

We jumped in the car after Structures (remember that?) on Wednesday evening and drove to Las Vegas. We chatted all the way and arrived around midnight. We said our good nights and went to our rooms . . . we were so tired that there would be no frivolity this starry twilight.

What Cherylynn and I didn't know was that the guys had a plan for the next night. They had brought along rose petals and were going to strategically place them around our respective rooms. I love the fragrance of roses and Scott uses that knowledge to his advantage repeatedly. Rose petals are relatively inexpensive, so he bought a huge bag and split it with Don.

Scott did himself proud on our room. There was a trail of rose petals leading to our bed and he tucked a few between the sheets and even in our shower. The aroma was intoxicating and I was thrilled.

The next morning at breakfast I couldn't wait to talk to Cherylynn about her rose petals. Scott had clued me in on the details that he and Don had arranged. I asked her if she had enjoyed her rose petal evening.

She looked at me with an vacant expression. I thought, oh my, she must not like roses. I explained to her what Scott had done to our room and she started to snicker. I then ascertained that Don had not followed the instructions Scott had given him. No, please, I didn't know if I wanted to hear what was coming.

Cherylynn simply smiled and said "I had a pile of rose petals in the middle of the bed".

A PAIR OF PANTIES

Scott and I tend to be sensitive to each others needs when it comes to romance. I mean we've had a lot of years to practice. Twenty seven to be precise. It was our anniversary and Scott was scheduled to attend an elders meeting at church. So I had to take things into my own hands.

Back in the day when we still had the luminator, Scott would drive that car to church . . . we didn't want to put the miles on that classic. Unbeknownst to him, I had made reservations for the night at the HB Hilton. Kelsey had agreed to stay with her sisters for the evening, and so the trap was set and the plan was in put motion.

I placed a pair of my silk panties on the front seat of the luminator with an invitation to join said owner at the Hilton. I didn't sign the invitation knowing that the undies would be recognized.

I checked into the hotel and ordered a fabulous dinner for two, room service, and waited for my beloved's arrival. I was praying for a gorgeous sunset that we could enjoy our meal with, but alas, the sun had sunk low in the sea and my husband had not appeared.

Eventually, there was a timid tap on the door. I answered it with blushing cheeks. "Happy Anniversary" he said, as he handed me my panties.

He never stopped smiling that night.

BED

Today, Addison and I went shopping at Bella Terra. We love to go to Cost Plus because we can always find that special something that we can not live without.

FYI. Scott and I make our own coffee and this store has the best assortment of sugar free flavors. Today I scored a Pumpkin Spice and I'm going to concoct a chai tea latte with it, at least try. I'll let you know if it works.

We browsed through cards, searched through jewelry and leisurely looked through autumn displays. We were taking our time because the other store we wanted to hit didn't open for an hour. As we searched for the perfect gift for Addison's bff Meghan, who has a birthday coming up, we came across the linens and displays of boudoir accessories. Addison gasped and said "Mom how do you sleep on this bed? Do you sleep sideways or is it made for really small people? I've never seen a bed so short."

I said "Addison, that's the display for the head and foot board." Then I bent over emitting bursts of laughter.

Monday, September 7, 2009

A CAR SEAT

We Roderick's spend a lot of time in the car. It seemed as if the girls leapt from my uterus right into their car seat. The more births that occurred in the family, the more time we seemed to be in the mini van. Trips to the grandparents were always long and I might add, no DVD players. Gymnastics lessons, piano lessons, ballet lessons, church, grocery runs, etc. etc. etc. When they were little, it seemed as if it was 24/7.

Hope was the one who took ownership of her car seat in a very deliberate style. She was probably under a year old when this behavior manifested itself. I would buckle her in and then attend to the other girls. She immediately was on the prowl for one of them to touch her seat. She would swat, squeal, yell, push and do whatever it took to keep them out of her perceived personal space. If they even looked at her, it was on.

The real fun began when Kelsey, Addison and Shae caught on to her power play. It seemed they would tease and torture, Hope would scream and yell, and subsequently, I was sucked into the chaos. I felt like a mother who had lost control of her kids.

But this devious mom had a plan. As the chaos was soaring, I pulled into the county health department. Now this was significant to the older girls because one of the employees was a family friend. We always took the girls to her for their immunization shots.

Kelsey asked me what was happening. I said as I pulled into the parking lot that I had heard there were new shots to help children behave properly. I told them that their behavior was in need of some adjusting so we were going to see if we could try out the new shot.

Suddenly, the teasing and tormenting came to an abrupt stop.

CLEANING OUT THE GARAGE

We have finally done it.  I didn't think it would happen, but it did on Labor Day.  We cleaned out our extremely cluttered garage.  You can imagine what it looked like if you have peeked at Scott's desk at church.  No further explanation necessary.

It is interesting the stuff that was found.  Old record albums from way back, pictures of the girls when they were little, soccer cleats that were outgrown, dorm stuff that was left behind, aluminum cans waiting to be recycled, dry wall from our remodel and memories that surfaced with each item discovered. 

Dazzling artifacts sparked conversations from the past, arguments exploded about who was working harder, instructions were barked by our commander and discussions erupted over what should be tossed, moved, kept, donated or garage sale(d).  Organized chaos seems an adequate description.

I have to admit I have a difficult time deciding what to keep because I have a serious emotional attachment to everything out there.  It feels like a skilled surgeon is removing a part of my past that I will never regain.  

So I let Scott and the girls make most of the decisions and I go out now and then to check if there is anything of value leaving the house.  Should I see something, I pluck it from the pile and stow it away in my keepsake closet in our guest room.  Thankfully the family rarely looks in that closet so my secret is safe.

I have several collections that no one is to ever touch for the consequences would be severe.  PEZ, Beanie Babies, Fisher Price Little People, Starbucks Cards . . . just to name a few, oh, and yarn.  I love to have a variety of several different fibers, in case I need to knit something up real quick.  

Now you understand why we have put off cleaning out the garage . . .

DATING WHO?

Chase, Shae's boyfriend of 14 months, broke up with her about 2 months ago. It weighs heavy on my heart for I feel that I could have possibly prevented the agony that she has endured because of the untimely breakup. I watched her crumble. He was her first love and I am certain she will not soon forget him.

He was the proverbial perfect guy. He would carry her books for her and walk her to class. Should it be raining, he would meet her at the car with an umbrella to make sure she was kept dry. He gave her frequent bouquets of her favorite flower, orchids. He wrote her many love letters. He would bring her a half and half from the gas station on cold, winter mornings. She received the coveted aqua box on special occasions. He opened doors for her including car doors. He would pull out chairs at tables. She didn't want or need more.

A very strict young Mormon.

I, too, fell for a young man when I was 16 and we dated for 8 years off and on. He whisked me off my feet, as well. I once received a dozen roses, each one with a poem attached, delivered to our doorstep with nary a clue from whence they came. It took 2 hours for me to gather them with the final poem stating whom they were from. He once wrote a love letter to me and published it in the school newspaper. We would go on picnics, packed by him, and take long walks in the mountains. And yes, he opened all the proper doors and would pull out all the necessary chairs.

I said good bye to him and sent him on his mission. I was 18, he the 19 year old elder, and decided that was it. Not so. He came home and we reconnected. I just couldn't say farewell to him and it seemed he could not cut me out of his life either. I was mesmerized. He said all the right things and did everything a young girl desires.

One evening, during the holiday season, he took me to Temple Square in downtown Salt Lake City. It is beautiful during this time of year. The lights and the whole area is spectacular. He set me on one of the many benches in a lovely garden. It was snowing lightly. He said to me with the most heart felt quiver in his voice and a small box in his hand, "Cindy, I love you with all my heart. I want to marry you in that Temple, but I must ask you to convert to Mormonism. Will you do me that honor?" With my heart breaking, knowing the answer I had to give, I choked out sobbingly, "I can't."

A very strict young Mormon.

It must be said that at the time I had also been dating Scott and knew he was the one man of my true hearts desire, but I did, at one time, love Lynn and still felt unbearable agony about treating him the way I knew I must. A clean break. It was the last time I ever saw him.

Another person close to my heart, dated a young man from her high school days as well. They reconnected after he came home from his mission. He had expressed to her that he had fallen in love with her and had decided to join our church and marry her. Scott did their premarital counseling and was asked to do the wedding. He placed membership and the wedding date was set for a beautiful December ceremony. From that day forward, he did not attend church with her and insisted she attend Sacrament Meeting with him. She was devastated. She felt betrayed and misled and rightly so. There was very little intimacy in their relationship and their union was annulled after 2 months.

A very strict young Mormon.

Why do we as young women fall for manipulation of this kind from young men? Are we in such need for affection and affirmation that we seek it out wherever we can find it no matter what the cost? Or are these young Mormon men taught from a very tender age how to manipulate and entice a woman of their said dreams and then marry her to their Mormon bed? They are all good guys . . . and then they aren't.

Mama's don't let your babies grow up and date Mormons.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

A SHORT TRIP

Scott and I enjoy taking little jaunts now and again so that we can keep our relationship growing and our intimacy intact. A few favorite destinations are Vail, CO, Las Vegas, NV, Hawaii and we have a very special Inn that we adore in Utah.

Several years ago, we made plans for one such trip. My dad and mom were coming down to SoCal to stay with the California cousins, as referred to by the Utah cousins. The girls love it when Grandad and Grammy come to visit because they do all the fun things that Scott and I, apparently, do not.

As the time approached for us to leave, we were instructing the girls on the behaviors we expected while we were gone. We also included information on our itinerary. The girls grew very excited as the time for our departure grew near.

Kelsey, as her typical standard, always has an opinion about anything and everything. We explained to her that we would be gone for about a week and that they could contact us should anything urgent arise. She looked at us with the most serious expression and said "A whole week. Are you taking the car?"

Our destination was Hawaii.



FLOWERS

I love getting flowers. Especially my favorite, sunflowers. They convey happiness, humor, fun . . . all the positive emotions. They are not necessarily fragrant, but they are so colorful and eye-catching you can't help but smile when you see them.

Scott, as a general rule, doesn't buy me flowers very often. He would never admit to this, but I suspect he is probably to practical to purchase something that only lasts a week at best. Much better use of money to buy a gift that will last a bit longer, like perfume, that he may enjoy as well. However, he does surprise me occasionally.

Several times a year he arrives home from work with a beautiful bouquet. Roses, mums, daisies, babies breath, poinsettias and many others have graced our home. He always receives a huge hug, kiss and thank you as I prepare a vase for my gorgeous flora and fauna. He smiles his crooked smile knowing that I have already concluded what his day was like.

"Was the funeral nice?" I ask.

Saturday, September 5, 2009

HAIR DYE

When we purchased our house we knew we would have to replace the carpet.  Five years later, we finally did.

Scott and I decided to go out for dinner, something we rarely did when the girls were young. Hope, Shae and Kelsey were out and about and Addison was the only daughter at home.  So she invited her bff's Meghan and Kristin over for an evening of pizza, T.V. and girl talk. 

We bid them a fond farewell and said we'd be back in a couple of hours.  Remember the house rules ladies, and no boys in the building, at all, when Mom and Dad aren't home, ever, never, no exceptions.  I thought these guidelines were understood.  Hmm.

Well our fearless threesome of junior high intellectuals decided to dye Meghan's hair black.  That's right, black.  They proceeded to the girl's bathroom upstairs, with the terrible linoleum floors, and began their chemistry experiment with hair color. 

Things went along smoothly until the door bell rang.  Of course, there were screams of delight and the scurrying took place with vim and vigor.  Meghan grabbed one of my "good" towels, wrapped her head in it and took off down the stairs . . . dripping dye as she ran.  Dripping black dye down on my 6 month old carpet.  Dripping black hair dye on nearly every stair.

We arrived home in the midst of the chaos.  All I could do was look at my carpet and try to figure out where I went wrong with the explanation of the rules.  I've got to remember to mention a new rule . . . no hair dying while we are gone.  Who would have thought that was an important one to reiterate.  I was concerned about boys showing up and I should have been concerned about Clairol making an appearance.

Needless to say I never did get that hair dye out of my carpet and it has since been replaced.  And yes, all our lovely daughters now know that coloring hair is a definite no way when we're not home.  Probably we should let the professionals handle the color, tint and dye from now on girls.  My carpet is only two years old.

Who was at the door?  You got it . . . a boy.
 

Friday, September 4, 2009

EXPECTATIONS

At first glance you can immediately see that the Roderick girls are sisters. All have that gorgeous blonde hair, all have those shining blue eyes and all are about the same height. However, from that point on they are different in so many ways. Today I'm going to tell you a story about our Princess Shae.

From birth, Shae was always the quiet, thoughtful, sensitive, almost shy one. She is the most tidy, the most creative, the most meticulous, the most patient . . . in short, she is the perfectionist. She knows exactly what she wants and she will wait until it comes to her. She expects the best out of everyone she meets and she expects them to treat her with respect and love. God made her that way and we rejoice and celebrate her uniqueness.

In pre-kindergarten, Shae was in a class with 10 kids. Three girls and seven boys and Shae had her eyes on a hot blonde named Christian. Shae and Christian became great friends instantly. They even shared the same birthday, Christian being born in the morning and Shae in the evening. They always sat next to each other, they played together at recess, had play dates at one another's houses. As Shae used to tell me they were in "wuv".

There was a field trip that was planned for the Newport Beach Fisherman's Dory and I was one of the drivers. Of course, Shae and Christian were to be in my car. This is how the whole morning went down and I am not exaggerating.

We walked to the car, Christian gently holding Shae's hand. He opens the door for her and helps her into her seat making sure she is buckled in correctly. We get to the Dory and Christian gets out and opens Shae's door and holds her hand so that she can gently jump out. As he closes the car door, he places his hand in the small of her back and follows her to where the class is meeting. They walk and chat as if no other kids are around. The children are all asked to sit on a bench and he brushes the seat off for Shae so that she has a clean spot to sit on. As we leave, he once again opens the door and securely buckles her in for the ride back to school. We arrive at school, and again he helps her out of the car and walks her back to class clasping her tiny hand.

Now, you can imagine what I am thinking at this point. I have got to talk to this kids parents. And I did. I thanked Kathy for raising such a fine young man, even though said man was only five, and shared with her the love story that happened before my eyes that day.

Shae's father and Christian had set the example for her and she is still good friends with Christian. This is how young women should be treated. Is it really that hard to raise young men with manners? Opening doors, pulling out chairs, picking up dropped items, coming to the door to pick up your date . . . are we expecting to much?

Apparently, this is what Shae expects and has not yet been disappointed. Shae will find that perfect guy someday.

I did.

Thursday, September 3, 2009

BOYSBOYSBOYSBOYSBOYSBOYS

Boys, boys, boys.  I have never thought there was a down side to parenting girls, until recently.  Perhaps it is the sheer number of them hanging around.  Perhaps I am getting old and unable to cope (no, that's not it).  Perhaps we have stunning daughters whom boys simply can not resist.  Whatever the reason, they have inundated our home and have interrupted the delicate balance of estrogen with their enormous amounts of testosterone. 

I had some time today to just sit back and meditate on situations that have come up over the summer and have decided the fault does not lie within our home.  It falls squarely on forces unseen.  Namely all these young men.  Don't get me wrong, I love most of the guys my girls bring home, but some of them have just missed the mark, parentally speaking.

New boys visiting, old boys hanging out, boys that come over all the time just to say hi, boys that have broken my girls hearts, old boys who call, boys wanting recommendations, boys enjoying meals with us, boys just stopping by, boys leaving toilet seats up, boys, boys, boys.

Even Kelsey, clear up in Seattle mind you, is not immune to the madness.  It seems every day there is a new boy that she is informing me about.  Mariners games with boys, U. of W. football boys, boys with sailboats, boys on the bus, boys at her work, boys from school, boys, boys, boys.

Here's to Graham, Jeff, Mike, Jacob, Michael, Nathan, Scott, Grant, Chase, Vincent, AJ, Russell, Connor, Cheyne, Billy, Rory, Kyle, Alex, Pato and so many more.  I honestly do love it when you are over but please, for the love of all that's right in this world, try to keep your testosterone under control when you are here.
 
Except for you Mr. Roderick, you live here.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

TOGETHER AGAIN

I got some sad news today. My grandmother passed away this morning. She was 93 years old. Let me share a little bit about her.

She married my grandfather when she was 16 years old and gave birth to my dad when she was 17. She went on to have 2 more sons and 2 daughters, many grandchildren and great grandchildren.

They were believers from day one and she taught each of her children the miracle of knowing Jesus and how important family morals and values are for a Christian. I remember visiting them on their farm in Illinois and having the best time chasing chickens and calling up cows from the back pasture. There were always cats and dogs around and once in a while we would play with the geese. They were the biggest challenge of all . . . geese are scary. We would attend church as a huge family and would have picnics in the park across the street after a big family prayer time. Special memories.

I could share story after story about my grandma. I am told that I am just like her. I am also told that Addison is just like me, so the saga continues. She once told me that as long as I'm alive she will never be dead. I will pass that sentiment onto Addi. It makes me smile.

My grandfather passed away in 1995 right after we moved to Southern California. My heart broke for my grandmother. The only man she had ever loved was gone. He died of a heart attack and she was right by his side when he blinked and was gone. She lost a little piece of her heart that day and never regained that sparkle in her eye. Losing someone you have loved for practically your whole life has to be a pain that can not be overcome easily.

Grammy slipped away quietly at her home. My aunt and uncle were with her as she breathed slower and slower and then ceased. It was a peaceful passing, one that I know suited her.

She has left a glowing legacy. All her sons and daughters and their spouses are believers. Most of her grandkids and great grandkids are believers. Many are involved in their respective community of believers and several of us have married ministers.

I will remember my grandparents with the fondest of thoughts and will sleep tonight knowing that they are together once again for eternity.